Put energy into other sexual experiences so your sex life doesn’t become a one-tone parade of backrooms and dark apartments - that will become very depressing, I promise. If you enjoy being a cum dump, don’t do it every weekend. If you want to be a cum dump frequently - some guys do it several times a month - you must schedule breaks and weekends off. Aftercare after an intense experience should involve plenty of rest, rehydration, and doing something de-sexualized, like spending time with friends or watching a movie. Even if you only do this once a year, having a wild, nasty night as a cum dump is a very intense experience, and just like with BDSM, intense experiences can cause strong mental and emotional responses. Substances aside, hard anonymous play can take other tolls on you. Let me touch also on mental health and emotional care. Know the risks of meth – long-and-short-term - before engaging. It will also link itself to the experience of sex, and extreme cases of meth addiction require addicts to be celibate in order to stay clean. Meth rewires your brain and will make it so that you can’t feel happy without it. Meth is one of the most addictive substances on the planet and repeat use will lead to worse problems than dry mouth. If you want to explore drugs, explore forms of harm-reduction and, if you can, find a harm-reduction-focused substance use counselor. You can find cum dumps and fisters who don’t do substances, but they are in the minority in this scene. If you want to avoid drugs, you’ll have to screen playmates carefully, have an exit strategy for bad hookups, and maintain relationships with playmates and fellow pigs/fisters who support your choices. The scenes you’re thinking about exploring are heavily inundated with drugs like meth, cocaine, GHB, and others. Let me touch briefly on illicit substances.
Fisting is the most intense, beautiful, delightful, terrifying, wondrous thing I do. Then read this piece, this piece, and this piece (I write a lot about fisting). In regards to fisting, read my article in The Advocate. Cum dumps have to live with this reality or they shouldn’t be cum dumps. Repeated STI treatment involves antibiotics, which can, over time, weaken your immune system, harm your GI system, develop antibiotic resistance, and all sorts of other unpleasantries. After several years playing this way, you will have had many STIs. The risk is real, and if you play this way, you will get STIs. This danger is part of the fun, but it’s not a fantasy. You don’t have a “What’s your HIV status?” talk beforehand. If you’re doing anonymous play correctly, you don’t know the names or any identifying details of the guys fucking you. You must become something of an authority on appropriate healthcare for a sexually active gay man. You have to have decent health insurance and be close to a place where you can get comprehensive STI screening on a regular basis. Know what questions to ask your doctor, and have an idea of what thorough medical care looks like.
Get STI testing very frequently (once a month, or even more frequently if you’re having a lot of condomless sex). To live with this risk, you must stay informed and educated about the latest in HIV/STI care and treatment.
Those who do it well are fully aware they’re engaging in high-risk sex, and that’s part of the thrill. If you’re interested in doing these things, I’ll go over everything you need to know besides the health risks, which are covered in this post.īeing a cumdump is about more than taking anonymous loads in your butt.